Comments on: How on earth do you miss that you’re pregnant for two months?

By: 2nd Trimester Style Favorites | In Honor Of Design

2nd Trimester Style Favorites | In Honor Of Design — Thu, 14 Jul 2016 23:04:11 +0000

[…] experienced, but as you know, that might have something to do with not knowing I was pregnant for the first two months. Suddenly I am in the third trimester a little bewildered and a little in disbelief at how I am […]

By: Tyshia

Tyshia — Sat, 28 May 2016 14:46:13 +0000

Congrats! So excited for you and blessings on your new journey <3

By: Jenny Snarski

Jenny Snarski — Fri, 20 May 2016 12:15:45 +0000

Congratulations and I can totally relate! As a single mom of a 6 year old, I finally married the man “of my dreams” at 34 y/o. We knew we wanted more kids but it took a couple years of trying – then, without trying, we had two within 15 months… I brushed up my NFP and- like Anna, had gone thru tests and a couple of appointments for low thyroid only to find out I was actually 13 weeks! Honestly, spent more of that pregnancy terrified bc two babies was already overwhelming. We had let the two previous babies’ gender be a surprise but I found out with this #4 and it was very helpful to start to feel an emotional connection with our second daughter. We had her name picked out within a month or so of her birth. I was still panicking bc by nature the chaos and neediness in a home with littles stresses my husband and I both out… But I got to a point where I submitted to God’s mysterious love affair with this baby girl that he had times perfectly (mother-in-law we named her after was dealing with cancer and the would-be godmother going thru an unwanted divorce) made me realize that she deserved my respect as an individual… We welcomed her as the 3rd child in less than 2 1/2 years – she has the most infectious smile and has brought much joy. I do feel guilty still for how “afraid” I was. It’s been no picnic! Three littles and a 12 y/o big brother has been very challenging; there are lots of days, especially evening dinners and bedtimes we feel like we live in an insane asylum…but with #4 now 15 months (the distance between both #2 and #3 and #3 and #4, it finally feels like some of the fog is clearing… I hang on to the 2-3 moments of motherhood bliss and tenderness and just try to let a hug every so often absorb the meltdowns (both mine and the kids…and my husband’s, too). But at the end of the day, we find peace seeing God’s plan…and our renewed and refined fertility awareness and find our love has grown in so many ways, and so have we… God bless- those of us who have lived through similar experience have a witness that is truly needed by our surrounding pragmatic culture of family planning. I can say as well, hoping this is all helpful for anyone else out there, that we have the strong conviction that our openness to life, for now, is to the children we do have. I know siblings are a wonderful gift for our children, but we also need to be humble enough to admit our limits and accept that God isn’t assessing our holiness on how sacrificial we can make our lives… He will send the sacrifices how and when he wants, but he does want us to cooperate with seeking balance. Give these moms the space to be real- real about the simulate sous panic and utter joy a new life brings! Sorry for the book but through our experience I have a newfound appreciation for the need to be inspired by other moms who can be real about both sides of this coin that openness to life in our faith is! Count on lots of prayers…and the promise of unexpected joys this “unexpected” baby will gift your family with!!

By: Anna Liesemeyer

Anna Liesemeyer — Tue, 17 May 2016 02:40:50 +0000

In reply to Sharon. Sharon, that is so very true. I think that is why we have a tough time dealing with the hard emotions because we believe they shouldn't exist. Thanks for writing and hope the pregnancy flies by for you;) (I personally would love to just skip to the baby part!) x

By: Sharon

Sharon — Mon, 16 May 2016 18:47:30 +0000

Even though my pregnancy was planned (23 weeks along!), when I saw the positive pregnancy test I too had those emotions because we had tried for about 6 months and nothing. I had just accepted the timing wasn’t right and was ready to move on and take time to start working on me and being a better Mom to my 3 year old. Thank you for this post because so often we are told we need to have the warm and fuzzies about being a Mom, even before they’re born. I think its okay to accept your emotions of “what if this isn’t what I want right now?” Because then you can fill your emotion meter with joy and happiness as you meet them or even allowing God to help you through your difficult emotions. Thank you for this post! I appreciated it and it was exactly what I needed to hear because this pregnancy has been a rough one and I’m wondering what in the world was I thinking wanting to go through this process again? Haha!

By: Michelle H

Michelle H — Mon, 16 May 2016 14:50:07 +0000

Congratulations!

By: Kris

Kris — Mon, 16 May 2016 01:38:22 +0000

In reply to Anna Liesemeyer. Yes -my best friend was over that day helping me paint my dining room and she though something was wrong we me because I kept drinking a bunch of water and going to the bathroom. And drinking water and going to the bathroom. Etc. The first two-pack of tests I bought and did were store-brand, so I convinced myself that something was wrong with them and went back and got a two-pack of name brand. You would think, four kids in, I would know better!